INTRODUCTION:
Entwine was developed by Anna, a breast cancer survivor, for people with a low sex drive, celibates, and those who avoid sex due to physical pain.
Because of her treatment, sex became uncomfortable both physically and emotionally. After her divorce, she found it difficult and intimidating to re-enter the dating scene out of fear of rejection from those that may not understand her situation.
She soon realized that many of the dating apps available had similarities; none of them offered an opportunity to find someone who had similar sexual limitations.
She found herself in a space that she soon discovered many others were in – single and looking for companionship.
INCLUDED IN THIS EPISODE (But not limited to):
· A Dating App for People with Sexual Dysfunction
· Broken Vaginas
· Surviving Breast Cancer
· Erectile Dysfunction
· The Struggles of Starting an App
· Self Esteem Related to Sexual Limitations
· Sexual Implications for Veterans
· The Value Men Place on Sexual Performance
· Reassessing Our Value Systems
CONNECT WITH ANNA:
Website: https://www.entwinedating.com
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DE’VANNON’S RECOMMENDATIONS:
· Pray Away Documentary (NETFLIX)
o https://www.netflix.com/title/81040370
o TRAILER: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk_CqGVfxEs
· Upwork: https://www.upwork.com
· FreeUp: https://freeup.net
· Disabled American Veterans (DAV): https://www.dav.org
· American Legion: https://www.legion.org
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TRANSCRIPT:
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You’re listening to the sex drugs and Jesus podcast, where we discuss whatever the fuck we want to! And yes, we can put sex and drugs and Jesus all in the same bed and still be all right at the end of the day. My name is De’Vannon and I’ll be interviewing guests from every corner of this world as we dig into topics that are too risqué for the morning show, as we strive to help you understand what’s really going on in your life.
There is nothing off the table and we’ve got a lot to talk about. So let’s dive right into this episode.
De’Vannon: Hello hello. Hello everyone. And welcome to another installment of the sex, drugs and Jesus podcast. I’m your host. De’Vannon Hubert. And I am so thankful that you are with me again on today. So on today’s episode, I’m talking with a woman by the name of Anna Leonarda. She’s a breast cancer survivor, and she’s gifted the world with a dating app called Entwine that’s E N T W I N E. Now this app is for those who may not be able to, or prefer not to fully engage in sexual intercourse.[00:01:00] Now we all know what a big deal sexual dysfunction is in the world today. You know, sometimes our bodies just don’t do what we want them to do. Now, in this episode, we’re going to talk about. Sexual implications for veterans, we’re talking about how self-esteem can be related to sexual limitations. And we’re also going to cover things like the value men and place on sexual performance, which is a huge deal in and of itself.
Pay close attention to this episode, stay tuned because I think you’re going to get a lot out of it.
Anna uh, you bad-ass bitch shoe. Are you today?
Anna: Perfect. How are you doing
De’Vannon: I’m fam fucking tastic. My new year is off to a phenomenal fucking start. My health is great. My wealth is great. My mind is great. My cats are great. My boyfriend’s great. My gardens. Great. Everything’s great.
Anna: Great [00:02:00] Great to hear.
De’Vannon: So I was looking forward to this here episode because we are going to talk about vaginas in. How they can be broken and everything. And you created a dating app called in twine, which we’re going to really get into. And of course, all of this information will be in the show we notes as they always are.
You created an app specifically centered for people who have a sexual dysfunction. Be it, be it men with erectile dysfunction women with, as you coin, it broke vaginas. She said that I can say that so she can get away with it.
Anna: Yeah.
De’Vannon: And so, so it’s a really cool app that you’ve made in a service that you’re now offering to the public.
But before we go down that delicious path, and we’re going to talk about you, you, you, you, you, and what led you to this here. And so any opening words you have for the world.
Anna: Just [00:03:00] get ready for my broken vagina story. definitely unique.
De’Vannon: So I say, well, wait, so we’ve got to work in, reverse it for a little bit. So I read about when I was researching you or read that you had you’re a breast cancer survivor.
Anna: Yes.
De’Vannon: So I want you to talk to me about what the emotions were like, like, walk me through your emotions. When you found out you got this diagnosis, do you remember where you were.
Anna: Yeah, I was actually, well, when I found the breast lump, I was in the shower. I was 36 years old and I just, right prior to that, I lost like 18 pounds willingly. So I was like, finally, I look, this is the weight I want to be at. I feel great. I look great. I felt confident for a change. And so then I was in the shower and I happened to have a bar soap in my hand.
And I was, I happened to cross off a lump on my breast and I thought, well, this is weird. It’s never been there before, but I mean, because I lost my weight, that’s where I found it, but that’s why I found it. And and [00:04:00] I was just like, well, it’s probably nothing. And I worked at, in the pathology department at, at the time as a secretary.
So I thought, well, you know, most people that come in there, they’re older that get diagnosed with breast cancer or any kind of cancer. So. The next day I got went to the gynecologist and just a couple of months prior to that, she was telling me I needed to get a mammogram. She’s like, you know, you’re 30, 30, 6 now.
You need to start thinking about getting a mammogram and mats. I don’t need to do that. I’m too young. So so when I went to her, she was like, well, yeah, it feels like a lump is probably nothing, but so long story short, I ended up getting the biopsy and and I had to wait a whole seven days for the results and was psychotic.
I mean, I kind of had an idea of something was up because the people that I’m friends with in the pathology department were like, are you doing okay, honey? I’m like, yeah, I’m fine. Why? Well, you know, w just wondering, and, and so it was a lot of emotions coming through. Cause I was like, wait, is something wrong with me?
Cause why are there being so sweet to me now? You know? So [00:05:00] it was a lot of paranoia going on too. Isn’t it? That, well, maybe I do have cancer. And and one of my friends is like, you know, you need to call your doctor. It’s just, these results are not good because she couldn’t give me the results because you just knew I was like freaking out.
And so yeah, I had breast cancer. I was like, whoa. I mean, it was on my mom’s 60th birthday. I was at her house celebrating her birthday. And I didn’t tell her that I even had a biopsy. Cause I thought, man, it’s nothing. Anyway. So yeah, it was a little, little shocking. And then I ended up getting ended up having actually three tumors in my left breast, which was just like, I had no idea I had cancer.
I thought I felt great. I looked great. I didn’t feel sick. You know, I didn’t look sick. And so it’s definitely very life-changing
De’Vannon: Was there a family history there of the Panther or.
Anna: but my one cousin had it when she was in her thirties, but that’s it like, there was like, no, no cancer at all that I know of in my family. Lucky me. Yay. [00:06:00]
De’Vannon: Well, all things happened. Where were you the Monday? How were you able to, so you said you’re cancer-free as of today.
Anna: Yes. Nine years.
De’Vannon: So how were you able to overcome that?
Anna: Well, I had to have multiple surgeries and six, six surgeries to be exact with mastectomies, double mastectomy, and then also reconstruction surgery. And my cancer was fed by estrogen. So the goal is to get all the estrogen out of my body, which can cause low sex drive. And so I had to go through chemotherapy.
I lost all my hair and and then, because I wanted to get rid of all my estrogen, I decide to have a total hysterectomy as well. So, so I was forced into menopause at a young age. So a little was a little hard on my body, but but I managed to where the chemo wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be, which was helpful because I had two young kids at the time and I still wanted to be a mom.
I didn’t want to. To suffer and or show anybody that I was [00:07:00] struggling. I felt like I was supporting everybody else around me or reassuring them because they’re crying all around me. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. I’m so sad for you. And so I’m like, no, it’s okay. I’ll be all right. I’m patting him on the shoulder and I’m like, wait a minute.
I’m supposed to be comforting me. But so I was pretty strong through the whole thing. I don’t think I’ve ever really dealt with my emotions with with all the cancer stuff that I had to go through, but, but it, but I went through, I was determined to beat it. I wanted to be there for my kids. And here I am.
So
De’Vannon: Well, congratulations, bitch.
Anna: thank you.
De’Vannon: I’m glad to have you here now. Okay. So you mentioned that your cancer that you.
used to have was fed by estrogen. So in order to defeat that It caused you to have a low sex drive. Once the cancer was gone, that your sex drive.
Anna: It didn’t. So I actually lost my second. I actually never really had a sex drive, to be honest with you. So when I, when I grew up, I had something called [00:08:00] endometriosis and that causes painful intercourse, which eventually led to lack of libido. And then so I have always struggled with low beetle. So the chemo and the treatment, everything made it even worse.
Cause there was more, even more pain and, and dryness involved.
De’Vannon: Okay.
Anna: my, vagina broke before my chemo, before my cancer,
De’Vannon: Right. So, cause when I was research and you are read that something happened after you had your second child in what do you think it, do you think it was a stress of the pregnancy that kind of like pushed your body over the edge or.
Anna: as far as the, the broken vagina thing or the the cancer.
De’Vannon: Well, no, as far as the broken vagina thing, like what happened after you had the second child? Because I was reading about it in your blog, you were saying like you had your second child, like something changed like in your body. Was it, did it everything become more painful then, or.
Anna: It was always painful. So I [00:09:00] think with the endometriosis, it, it was always, since it was always painful over time, my vagina was just like, get the hell away from me, whatever it’s coming at me. So, so I ended up trying, I was trying to have intercourse with my, my ex-husband and and it was like, nothing would go in there.
It was like, it was like hitting a wall. I’m like, what the heck is going on with me? So I went to the doctor and she said well, you have vaginismus. And I’m like, what the heck is that? And she’s like, well, you’re the opening of your vagina is it’s just as fascinating mean because it’s probably just anticipating the pain that it’s just.
It’s it’s that’s this natural reaction is to just kind of spasm up and not allow anything to, to enter there. And so I was supposed to go through physical therapy or pelvic floor therapy, and that involved, like using these dilators where I had to slowly stretch the vaginal opening, which is a long process and not, not pleasurable for sure.
And it’s like, the size of the pinky is the first [00:10:00] side of the dilator. And then once you’re comfortable with that, then you move up to the next size and then you just keep graduating to the largest size, which has Godzilla, which I would never use because it’s like, I don’t want to size, it was just enormous.
I didn’t know how to explain it. So I just call it Godzilla size. So I just put that in the drawer way in the back. We’ve covered up. So, so I asked the therapist, why does this happen? And she said, well, it’s your body’s natural reaction because what’s happening is if somebody comes up to you repeatedly and starts punching you in the stomach, once that person approaches you, you’re going to start flinching and your muscles are going to tighten.
And you’re going to kind of back up to avoid that pain. Vince is patient of the pain. So she’s so I said, so basically my vagina broke. So that’s the easy way of saying it has my vagina broke. So yeah, so that’s what I was doing. Those, those, I did the treatments for a little bit. And then again, it was just like very, it was a very slow process.
So there’s a cure for it. I just chose not to do it. And then when I got breast cancer, I didn’t even want to think about using my dilators. My oncologist is like, [00:11:00] well, this is estrogen fed. Your libido is going to be non-existent for a while. I’m like, well, it already is. I mean, I don’t even know how much, how much more, how much more possible is it going to be worse, but it was, it got even more dry and.
De’Vannon: How did that cause. and.
when all of this was going on.
Anna: Yeah, I met my ex-husband when I was in eighth grade. And then, so he was my one and only, and I was, we were married for 20 years. We got divorced three years ago.
De’Vannon: So how did, can you talk to me about the sort of stress that this caused in your marriage when you were going through.
Anna: It was, he was patient. I just feel like it was, it was hard for me because I, I just, I felt like I was always making up excuses, like trying to stay up, let him fall asleep first. So I had to avoid it. So I, that probably didn’t help the marriage at all. And eventually, you know, the level of intimacy kind of diminished in all ways, [00:12:00] because it was just something I always had to deal with.
So it was never really said that it was in the back of my head. I feel like that’s one of the reasons why definitely that you kind of. Distance distance ourselves. But so yeah, it definitely takes a toll.
De’Vannon: So you’re so it’s a, you were saying like, okay, so intercourse is painful. Anything that you would certainty your vagina hurt? So I was reading where even a tampon, trying to put a tampon in there is like, was like super, super painful. So this is this pain exclusive to anything penetrating the vagina or what about that?
Anna: truly
De’Vannon: And external stimulation does that hurt too with these medical conditions?
Anna: after the, I guess it’s not as enjoyable, enjoyable as it probably should be, but after all my surgeries, it’s more like just, I’d rather not [00:13:00] any kind of contact right now or ever, I guess I should say so. It’s, it’s just very sensitive and not in a good way. So.
De’Vannon: Interesting. Okay. So. Then this, so we can shift gears from here and to entwine. So.
I want you to tell us what your motivation was for creating this, this, this dating app. And this is spelled E N T w I N E. And also want to know what this name means and how you came up with that.
Anna: Sure. As far as the name of why I called it in twine, I was going to call it, going to call it comfortable companions. And I was told by many that, that sounds like diapers. So don’t do that. I’m like, oh my God, I guess it’s probably hard to remember comfortable companions though. So so the, the app developers I did use, they ended up giving me a bunch of options of what I should use.
And then when they set [00:14:00] in twine and I’m like, well, I in twining hearts people’s lives together or whatever the heck. So I thought, yeah. And twine sounds good. So it’s not a very exciting story. That’s why we called it in.
De’Vannon: Okay. So Was all the, all your medical conditions and things going on with your body, your motivation for starting this app and like how your marriage into what, tell me in your own words, why you wanted to go through the, the the rigor Moreau, because y’all starting an app. Isn’t just as simple as like making like a Gmail account, you know, it’s, it’s, it’s, it’s complex as fuck.
And it takes a lot of time, money, resources, and dedication. So this is not like it’s not just like simple to start an app, especially something like this as a dating app is running algorithms and all of that. Why did you want to go through all of the painstaking tasks that you had to go through to bring this app, this app to fruition?
Anna: So when I was married, [00:15:00] my girlfriends would go on traditional dating apps and I would say, Hey, how was your date? And they’re like, you know, I mean, every guy in meat so far has ed and rocked all this function. And I was like, how old are they? Well, they’re in their thirties or they’re in their forties. And I’m like, well, what are the reasons why they have that?
And, and they would say like, well, one of them has diabetes and other one might have antidepressants that he’s taking or prostate surgery or whatever the reason is. And and I thought, well, why don’t you save their numbers so that when I’m, if I’m ever divorced, you know, I’ll go, I’ll date them.
Because if I, I thought to myself, if ever, if I’m ever single, I’d rather either just be single forever, because I thought to have to have that stress of wondering, you know, if that person could understand that I don’t want to have intercourse. So I’m like, I’ll just either stay single or I’d rather deal with guy with ed.
So I’m like, there should be like a. Dating app for guys with EDD. And then I remember talking about it and then I’d let, let left it alone. Dropped it. And then I don’t know, eight years later, that’s when I got divorced and I thought [00:16:00] again, I’m like, I think I’m going to be single. I don’t want to be with anybody.
No, one’s going to understand this. They’re going to cheat on me. They’re to they’re not, they’re not going to get it. And so then I thought, well, that’s not fair for what the heck. I I’ve been through all this stuff for, there’s a reason why I went through all this. And the reason I thought at first was to help people go and tell my friends, if you know anybody that’s going through a cancer scare has breast cancer, whatever it is, Kevin can reach out to me.
And that’s what I would do. I would talk to people I’m like, no, I need to do something more. So I thought, what about these guys that have ed? How many times, you know, are they going to get rejected before they just give up? And so I thought I need to do something about it. So that’s why I decided to create a dating app for it.
Cause I thought. I want to help more people. It’s not just me though that I want to help some, I’m still single. I’m not using the dating app yet, but eventually I will just want to kind of focus on getting the app established and getting more users. But so then I thought, well, I gotta do this. And I was a stay at home mom.
I worked part-time as a, at the [00:17:00] time I got diagnosed, I was a secretary at pathology, but then then I was a stay-at-home mom and I also worked part-time as a medical transcriptionist. So I thought I have no business background and my, what am I going to do? How am I going to figure all this out? So I started doing some research and I found an app company that took like extreme advantage of me, meaning they stole a lot of money from me because I didn’t know anything about business and they knew it and they wanted they want an equity in my app right away.
So I was like, no, I said, I don’t know, maybe like, well, we’ll give you a discount services. And, and I, you know, it sounded great at the time because I was running out of money. So I used all my savings and and, and I thought, well, they don’t want equity because they care about my app. They care about people.
They want equity cause they wanna make money. So I decided to tell them, no, I don’t want equity. I don’t want you to have equity. And then after that, everything went downhill and stupid errors and glitches and oh, you want to fix, you want to put a notification on the envelope, [00:18:00] say you have a match.
Okay. That’s gonna cost you something like this functionality, you know, it was like stuff like that. So everything went downhill. And so I ended up taking the code and leaving and I was like I said, I’m done. I have no more money. I can’t do this anymore. And then I thought this is not, this is not right. I mean, I thought I was going to give up.
And but I couldn’t cause I’m like this again. Why did I go through all this? It’s not because I’m for me to just get taken advantage of and quit. I’m not gonna let anybody take my dream. So so I found another app guy and he was he’s great. And he yeah. Took care of it, of the professional of the cost.
And, now we’re live end of August of last year.
De’Vannon: Girl, you think I’m right. You don’t let anybody take your dream. It’s it’s a fucking hassle when you, when you fall into the den of vultures like that, and it happens to all of us it’s happened to me. But you know, I would encourage people who were trying to start businesses or apps or whatever, you know, to keep [00:19:00] trying.
But you know, now there’s websites out there like Upwork free up where you can hire people from all sorts of. Th technological backgrounds. And the beautiful thing is those websites will act as an intermediary and they hold the money. So that, that other person doesn’t get paid until the work is done and it’s done.
Right. And they negotiate everything for you so that you don’t have the fuckery, like what you went through and everything like that. I’ve been through that myself and it can be discouraging. I had issues like that with started my podcast and writing my first book. You know, but you just got to keep on doing it, like, like what you said, but my God, you just want to strangle the people who took advantage of you.
Anna: Yeah.
Even like I just found out recently, I was looking at, there was these graphics that they created. They said they created. And I remember saying, oh, can you change the graphics a little bit? And they’re like, well, they’re custom hand drawn graphics. So it’s going to take some time off to give you another estimate.[00:20:00]
And this was what it’s supposed to in 2019. They use them and I just found out from another dating app that just got launched. I was just downloaded it just to look at it. And I found one of my graphics on her app. So like that wasn’t custom, they told me it was hand drawn and it wasn’t even the stuff like that.
I was like, how could someone, how could a company be like that? You know, for me, it’s just frustrating. Just I know
De’Vannon: You got them out there, honey, but you know
what? We don’t move forward.
Anna: that’s right. I know I got to stop looking at the past. That’s my problem is I keep going back anymore.
De’Vannon: You know, it’s, it’s good too, for the purposes of like, say this interview to talk about that so that other people can know that they are technological solutions and safeguards to this now. So, but yeah, when we were alone and thinking, I fall into that trap too, sometimes of like anger might rise up in me, then I try to, you know, I gotta realign myself and focus on what is working and not let those people [00:21:00] take my joy anymore.
Anna: Exactly. I’m tired of people taking my joy. So
De’Vannon: Not no more.
Anna: that’s right.
De’Vannon: So so let’s get more granular and let’s dig into exactly the uniqueness of entwine. Tell me like the typical male person who’s going to be on here. Typical female person are there. Trans people and I saw them there. They’re like two guys kissing and everything like that. So I know it’s LGBTQ plus friendly.
So what are like the sex options and all the sexual orientation options that you have.
Anna: So, because the app is very basic because of funding. So I had to start off with. then are you interested in male, female or both? So that’s what we have for now, but my goal is to have it available for everybody because that’s how it should be. And just because of costs, unfortunately, I wasn’t able to, to expand on that, but that’s my that’s one [00:22:00] of my main goals is to do that.
De’Vannon: Okay. So then within the. Within the parameters that.
you have established, give you an example of the sort of guy who would come on, come on your app and the sort of girl what’s it going on in their life? Are you seeing certain income ranges, certain typical occupations? Just, just give me an example of a male or female and female profile.
Anna: So since the app ended up launching the end of August, there’s not a ton of users. That’s probably get into that later where how it’s very hard to get a hold of users that are that have sexual limitations. But it’s so when. I noticed that the ones that I do have, so they had to put down, if they’re male, female, then they still had to say their, their age, their location.
Do they smoke? Do they drink? And do they have kids? So it’s very basic, but of course down the road, it’ll be more more of an algorithm that filter. So And I noticed that the feud that I had signed up, I’m actually friends with them. And [00:23:00] then I’m like, do you have sexual dysfunction? There was one guy that signed up and he’s like, no, I don’t, but I just, I’m tired of meeting these women that it’s all they want.
And I’m okay with not having intercourse. I rather, because they think they’re okay with other floors and intimacy and they’re okay with not having intercourse. I don’t say sex cause it could be oral or whatever. So and then the same thing with the women. They’re like, I’m just tired of these guys. You know, they’re just, that’s all they ever do is, you know, that’s all they want.
And so I have a few women that sign up that they didn’t, they don’t have that issue and they just did because they, they want something different work, more of that emotional connection rather than the physical. So so it’s, it’s a variety for now. I don’t know that occupations or anything like that yet.
Cause it’s not in there and they can type as much as they want in the about me sections. They don’t have to say what their limitations are until they meet the person. So there’s no pressure there because of. I probably mean myself. I tell everybody my vagina’s broken, but there might be someone else.
They went through sexual trauma. They may not want to put that in that, in that [00:24:00] description.
De’Vannon: So then it sounds like not, oh, intimacy is off the table. So it sounded like people who are sexually able can go on here. They are open-minded to being with people who are not sexually. Abel. And then even within the realms of both, they might be other things they can get into
Anna: Right.
De’Vannon: exactly what sex is, not the sin, sin, sin, central focus.
Anna: Exactly.
De’Vannon: So what, so there was a statement that I read that you wrote in and said that no one really thinks about people that can’t, that can’t have intercourse. Can you, and I feel like that that’s a, that’s a huge motivating factor into why that, that did you create this app in order to create an inclusive space For people who have sexual dysfunction?
So can you walk me through some of like the emotions that maybe you and people, you know, who are, who are suffering from sexual dysfunction, this [00:25:00] isolation that it seems like you talk about because it almost seems like there’s a feeling of being discarded or are devalued here.
Anna: For example, when I I’m in a couple of erectile dysfunction, Facebook support groups, and there’ll be men on there and there. I don’t know why I’m living anymore. I’m going to be single forever. No, one’s going to accept me for my issue. And I’m like, I don’t want to, I want to jump on there and be like, no, don’t think that there’s people out there like women like myself that don’t mind if you have a broken Dick.
I mean, I guess I could say that, right. Because I have a broken vagina. Right.
De’Vannon: You can say anything you. want, girl, they all.
Anna: So I can’t really comment because I don’t want to get kicked out of the cause they say, oh, you’re promoting your abalone, my ups free, but, okay. So, and they don’t know that they’re, that they have these options and, and then there’s all these women that have the same thing where there are in my breast cancer group.
So the vaginismus groups, it was like 17,000 women in the vaginismus groups. And like how many people have a broken vagina that couldn’t believe it? [00:26:00] And the ones that are saying like I’m just going to stay with my husband because. No one else is going to want to be with me. I can’t have sex and throw in like an abusive relationship and they don’t, they don’t want to go anywhere else.
And and guys that cheat and say rude things to them. And, and I thought, that’s, this is why my app has made. And, and then I started hearing some cruel comments myself, and it made me think like this, this app is needed because the regular traditional dating apps don’t think about, they don’t cater to people that have sexual limitations.
That’s like a given it’s like, okay, after the third, fourth date, we’re probably going to have sex. And imagine that pressure of a guy or a girl, it’s a think like, when am I going to tell this person that I can have intercourse? You know, are they going to make fun of me? Are they going to reject me my own?
Be embarrassed. That’s a lot of pressure. And, and for me, I, I did this right away. So if I started meeting I started since I started, since I got divorced, I started going out more and I started meeting men and. [00:27:00] Hey, you have kind of your number you want to go to for dinner. I’m like, well, let me tell you about the dating app I created.
And then I started telling him about my issue and the variety of answers are pretty insensitive. So it just, again, confirms that there needs to be something like in twine to be like a safe, comfortable spot for people that have these limitations to find companionship. But when I told this guys this, but my broken vagina though, like w w a few of, several of them said well, you have other holes do like anal.
I’m like, well, first of all, I don’t even know you for you to even ask me that is just for going rude. But, and I said, you have other holes. It’s like, really that’s really classy. And also and our, I hear like, well, you know, the perfect reason why a guy wouldn’t want to be with you. It was a good one, too, you know?
And you have, you should never get married. You should never have a boyfriend because you’ll never make them happy because you can’t have sex. I’m like, it’s just horrible. [00:28:00] But it’s been for me, I I’m strong enough to handle it. I wasn’t like crying, but eventually like a sensitive woman that just got sexually assaulted and then she knows or whatever, however, history of it.
And then she hears that. I mean, that’s horrible to, you may not never want to go on the dating scene again. At least I wouldn’t have, you know, but I’m just prepared to you’re thinking really hard. I could see it. I could hear it. I could see the wheels spinning.
De’Vannon: Well, yeah. You’re giving me a lot to think about, and I’m absolutely feasting on this, on this knowledge over here, there’s so much. So much pain and what you’re talking about in so much rejection and so much fear of rejection, and nobody deserves to live like that. It’s, it’s reminding me of when I first contracted HIV and hepatitis a B, and I was thinking the same thing, like, okay, who was going to want to be with me now?
At what point do I tell them this? You know, how does this go? And, you know, you see now, [00:29:00] like on the, on the dating apps now, especially the gay dating apps you can put on there, whether or not you’re HIV positive undetectable already. So, but at first it was, I liked that, but, you know, and you had to determine a point, but now you can put it on there.
And so, you know, anybody who responds back to you or who reaches out to you as you know, that they’re okay with that. But I understand what it’s like to have that fear of, okay. Are they gonna want to keep me around after I tell them this is a weakness about me, you know, or not. And so You know, some people are like totally cool with dating someone who has HIV and some people want to head for the Hills and everything like that.
And, and it sounds like it’s the same thing that’s going on in the sexual dysfunction world. Now I want to say, fuck you to all the assholes out there, like the people who were taught, who, who, who were talking to you and yet, you know, women do have other holes, but there is a class that your way to, to bring up because, you know, on the one hand, you know, if you’re talking about sexual [00:30:00]dysfunction, the holes that can not be used, that conversation is on the table.
And so yes, assholes can be asked about, but it could be done, you know, a little bit more class or something like that. You know, it like,
Anna: Moved down the road and be like on the fourth day maybe or something that I didn’t even go on a date yet. I was already asking about my whole holes.
De’Vannon: That’s a smooth question. Like, you know, lo Hey, well, what else might you be interested in? And, you know, and then just let you answer it. And if they’re answered it and come up with, then they can assume that this is off limits.
Anna: would be nicer, but yeah, and my girlfriends they’re like, why don’t you, why don’t you wait to tell the guy that you have your broken vagina issue? And I said, well, why so I can just like, get emotionally attached because I get, I seem to get more emotionally attached to anything. Cause it’s, it’s I don’t want to wait until I’m like four dates in and then all of a sudden I’d be like, oh, I really liked this guy.
Oh, by the way, I have the sister. And then, then he says, oh, you have other holes. I’ll be like, I couldn’t, I kind of handle that. But if there’s no emotional connection yet or attachment, [00:31:00]then I’d rather them know then and have to have them make a decision right at the time. Cause we usually, when I think, well, 99% of them that I did talk to they’re like we never went on a date actually.
I’d never been on a date. So since I’ve been divorced cause. Seeing the find the guy that is just like, I’m not, I mean, looking though I should say, but even if it’s just like, I don’t want them to convince themselves that they don’t need intercourse either, because that’s another thing they might do that like, well, I guess I don’t need any more.
I, you know, I’m going to have a bunch of heavy D myself probably, you know? So I think no don’t convince yourself because then in the back of my head, it’s going to be like, either I need to fix my vaginismus, it’s treatable, but I don’t want to fix it for me. I’d rather fix it for myself and somebody else.
So it’s a.
De’Vannon: Well open relationships with something that I don’t think It should be off the table, really like ever, but especially, [00:32:00] you know, in this sort of situation, because like, like an open relationships, you know, if, if you have like two people who are in a couple and they allow each other to have sexual experiences with other people, given whatever their rules and boundaries might be, it oftentimes doesn’t include any sort of emotional exchange with whoever the extra people are going to be.
And so I could see that. And I’m curious what your, what your opinion is you know, on this. So if you have say like one person who is sick, that’s able to have sex in other one, who’s not really, really enjoyed each other’s company and companionship about letting the person who can have sex, maybe have that sex with someone else, you know, but actually building like your core life with, you know, the one person who can have sex in the one person who can not, what are your thoughts on that?
Anna: I think for me, that’s I wouldn’t be able to handle it. I know there’s, there’s a lot of individuals that can do that, but I feel like if somebody’s [00:33:00] intimate like that, having sex, that there’s gotta be some kind of connection there or some kind of emotional connection in my head. But like if I was with somebody now, that’s just like, like if I, for my, for my ex husband, I just said, well, you can’t have sex with me.
So go somewhere else and get somewhere else. I was still like, that would really bother me. And so I want to be able to handle that, but I’m sure there’s couples out there. There are people out there that would be okay with it. But for me, it’s just something that I want to be able to, to live with.
De’Vannon: Right. It is about being true to yourself. And I agree with.
every sexual exchange, there is some level of mental, spiritual, and emotional transacting that does happen. You know, so it’s just about what, what works for you and what doesn’t. I just wanted to put that out there as a possible option. Now I wanted to talk about the self-esteem issues that I’m picking up on here and that I’m hearing in what you’re saying, because you’ve mentioned like, some people are, who have sexual dysfunction are in [00:34:00] abusive relationships with people who are able to have sex.
And so you think that people are maybe staying in this abusive situation because of low self-esteem. What, what, what sort of self-esteem issues have you seen.
Anna: Well, I think there was the woman. I did talk to that. Her neighbor actually. So I haven’t talked to that to a woman, but she said I talked about my app and she’s like, you know, my neighbor, she’s her, husband’s mostly abusive. And she had breast cancer and she’s like button hysterectomy. And she had chemotherapy, all that stuff that I had.
And, and she’s like, and I said, well, why is she in the relationship? Then? She said, well, she said, she’s, she’s afraid to be alone. And she said that no guy is going to want to be with her because of all of her scars. And because she doesn’t want to have sex, she’s never going to find anybody like, so she’s just going to stay married.
And, and she’s like, well, that’s what she said. I’m like, well, tell her about my app because that’s another thing too. I want to reach all these people that are married, that, or are in a relationship. To know that it’s [00:35:00] you’re, you, you probably won’t be alone. You’d just rather to be alone anyway, then in an abusive relationship.
But but when they have all these surgeries and on scars and everything, and not like I told them, I said, man, I don’t have any nipples, you know? So that might freak a guy out if you saw that, you know? But and I didn’t know that even the mastectomy had nipples removed too as well. So it can be heavily promoted, I should say.
But, so that’s why the most, the low self esteem, they just, they don’t have that courage to leave their partner or even enter the dating scene because they have these, these scars or these sexual limitations. That’s why I think a twine will help them because they don’t, people seem to be more understanding.
I think when they’re on this app, because they know right away that the intercourse or sex is not this off the table or can be off the table.
De’Vannon: So how many people do you have signed up total on there now?
Anna: Seventy-five I know it’s not the money. That’s, that’s, that’s where my problem is, is getting the word out [00:36:00] because the majority of the users are female. Cause I think like the guys don’t really want to talk about it. If they’re more embarrassed about it and women are a little bit more vocal about it. I think if there’s only like a few support groups for men with ed and there’s all these women’s issues and for breast cancer groups, vaginismus groups, there’s other types of sexual dysfunction in women, that groups for that.
But and then if I put like on Facebook, I’ll put ’em on my personal page, like please share my app upon entwined. No, no guys like, like my posts, nobody wants to be associated with it because it’s going to be like, well, that means that I have ed. I don’t want anybody to know that. So we’re thinking that.
So we’re getting the word out is pretty, pretty difficult, but it’s available in the U S right now only my goal is to have it available worldwide. And I actually had a few different countries reach out to me, UK, Canada Pakistan, and even India. They, [00:37:00] they messaged me separately and like, why is your app only available in the us, please make it available in our country.
We need this to, and, and it’s, it’s needed worldwide. There’s estimated it’s going to be 300 to 320 million men in the world are going to have ed by 20, 24. I think the statistics were it’s a lot of men, so there’s like 30 million men right now in the U S that have ed. So like, we’re all these, all these, all these men that are single, these need to hear about and fine.
Cause there’s, there’s even veterans that I was researching. Veterans, I kind of go off, I think about something and I start talking about something else, but these, these veterans there, they have PTSD possibly, or maybe they have depression and they’re on these, these antidepressant meds. Or maybe they, they lost limbs during combat genitals, even, you know?
So I thought, what about these individuals? How do they find companionship? [00:38:00] And then I started seeing that, you know, there is this high suicide rate for veterans and some of them, there’s not an exact percentage, but they were just in, at their counselor’s office during therapy and talking about how they’re very alone and they don’t know what to do.
And they ended up committing suicide. So it was like, I want to save everybody. I want to see the veterans. I want to save cancer patients, even people that are not cancer patients, you know, it’s just, it’s, it’s needed in all these different areas. Diabetic clinics. I mean, I didn’t realize diabetes caused causes ed too, you know, so it’s just a matter of reaching everybody.
And it’s just me trying to do this with social media marketing, everything I’m doing on my own. So it’s a little slow process, but
De’Vannon: Well,
Anna: there.
De’Vannon: well, as the Lord says in the Hebrew Bible says despise, not the day of small beginnings. And so, you know, every app had to start with an idea and with that first, first two signed up. So there’s no shame. And [00:39:00] just having 75 people, you know, 75 today, a hundred thousand tomorrow, you know, the thing in business is to stay consistent time and pressure, you know, are two
things.
Anna: zero before, so somebody five minute, every, every week I’m like, oh, I got another user. I got another user and I get all excited
De’Vannon: But yeah, I heard, I heard high blood pressure. You can call it the right time. Can calls, towel, dysfunction. There’s all kinds of medications and diseases out there. For veterans though. Yeah. I’m, you know, me being a veteran myself, you know, guys. It’s just a lot of stress and you come out of the military and even when you’re in the military and stress can cause erectile dysfunction.
There’s so many things, you know, but you know, the, the, the, I recommend for you to reach out to the disabled the DAV disabled American veterans, and because that’s a good association that helps veterans and all sorts of things, they send out, you know, like a monthly magazine, they have a great website, [00:40:00] you know, they may want to post that, re your resource on there and include it in their publications as the American Legion.
There’s all sorts of like veterans associations that That that, that, that are set up to help. And of course you have mental health clinics in the department of veterans affairs, medical centers worldwide. And so I would work with the DAV if I were you and see how you might, could help their veterans.
And then even maybe get this posted in the, in the veterans, hospitals worldwide, and, you know, look into that. Cause the, the veterans health care system is huge. You know, there’s veterans, hospitals, and then there’s a little mini clinics in cities where there’s not enough population to have a big hospital, but mental health just in veterans alone, if.
It’s like a big deal and a lot of all kinds of dysfunctions play. He goes, honey. And so, and the thing with veterans is there since we tend to be so broken, the, the, [00:41:00] the powers that be are that have to deal with us are always looking for some sort of help. You know, there’s plenty of veterans who get prescribed like Viagra and Cialis and all of that and everything like that.
And so I think, I think it’d be worth your time to look into going down that route. And then suicide. Yeah. You had, you had said something earlier about like a form you were in the guy who was like, I don’t want to live anymore. And everything like that, men attach so much of their value and worth to sexual performance. Y and I know you’re not a man, but you know, why do you think that is a, what, what thoughts do you have on that? Because it goes for some, for a guy to be like, you know what? I can’t fuck. So I’m just going to kill myself, you know, that’s, that’s like, that’s like kind of a big deal in terms of like how much he thinks to himself based on how hard his Dick can get, what he can do with it.
Anna: I often wonder [00:42:00] myself. I mean like, okay, I can’t have sex, but I don’t want to kill myself. You know, it’s just like, I’m just like, eh, whatever. But it’s just like, I don’t know if just like, just so like, I don’t know what the word is. Not even embarrassing, but I mean, I don’t know. They just attached to that thing.
Huh? So manhood, I don’t know. But even like couples that are like the guys that are on the EDI page, like, you know, my. Is understanding, or she’s not understanding anymore and she’s not, she wants to divorce me now. So when guys and girls, where girls have to, where they’re just like, and I don’t want to be with the guy with ed, like, so it’s, it’s hard.
It’s heartbreaking to see that though. There’s there were several posts that I saw guys that are like, you know, I don’t, why am I living anymore? And it’s, I don’t, I never reached out to them to ask them why, but why there was so like, [00:43:00] they just don’t want to be alone. I think
De’Vannon: They don’t want to be alone. And they feel like they feel like no one will have them. If their Dick don’t work.
Anna: Yes.
De’Vannon: Okay. So then what I think this speaks to is our need to, as a, as a, as a society to reevaluate our value system, our personal value system and w and what we will allow and how we accept value from other people.
So. Okay. So that means that we gotta be sure that we’re assessing our value, not based on what we can do, but just who we are. So that means every day that we wake up, we are incredible and wonderful and loving and deserving of love because that’s the way God made us, you know, we’re here. So whether we perform fantastically today on whatever the task is, be at work sex, whatever the hell it is that you do, or if you totally suck at it, that doesn’t mean that you are a bad person.
It just means that you are imperfect, which [00:44:00] is true. And that’s something that we just got to get over and accept about ourselves. We’re just not going to be able to do everything and do everything as good as we would want to. And then if somebody wants to reject us because of an imperfection, we’ll then fuck them.
And I don’t think that we need to go about the business of being like, I need to fix myself so that people will accept me because that’s not living truth. You know, truth is, this is what’s going on with me right now. I hope it gets better, but if it doesn’t, I’m still going to be all right, because I’m more valuable than these, these physical limitations.
I also think it’s shortsighted because, you know, we have a spiritual aspect of us and a mental aspect of aspect of us. And when we die and leave this plane of existence, you know, there will be no Dixon vaginas, you know, on the other end, the other spiritual side, you know, these things, don’t concern, angels and demons.
And so, so I mean, I get, I get you know, somebody values something and they’ve made a big deal out of it. [00:45:00] I can see when it leaves them. They may not know how to cope with that. So, so, Hmm. So it sounds like then a lot of men may not be seeking mental health treatment to go along with erectile dysfunction.
So what do you speak on the, everything I just said in my tirade, just now about the mental, the the, the self valuing aspect of it and the way we receive. Oh, how, how we should reject judgment from other people and then tie in mental health counseling implications to this.
Anna: For myself. I didn’t really, I didn’t go for therapy or mental health counseling. I think like with men, there’s actually specific therapists that have that specialized in sexual dysfunction for mum. And and I think a lot of them don’t know that there’s, there’s cures further. Ed it’s like, there is a cure for vaginismus.
I know there’s a cure of, I don’t want to do it, but but these guys that they have these when [00:46:00]they do go to therapy, they might know that there’s treatments. So they’ve lost hope, but they don’t, they don’t know that there’s penile implants. There is injections. There’s certain medications that they can take that would hopefully help them.
There’s even male penile press thesis that I’d met the founder of that guy that makes externally worn penises. And it, I guess the saves several marriages as well. But so without them going to a therapist and finding out, and I don’t think that they may not, may not know, and for them to end their life for that, that’s even more horrible.
But that they need to know more about it. There’s such a stigma for, for this this whole taboo of this topic, but they hope they would talk to somebody and why not? What, what options are out there and know that they don’t have to do. They don’t have to have surgery to have a press Penile implant.
They can use my app instead, you know, because who wants to have [00:47:00] injections in their penis. I think that would hurt, you know? So that’s another thing too. It’s like maybe they don’t want to do those treatments anymore.
De’Vannon: I, I just, I just really think that we should be more valuable than our dicks, but I can see they can stroke a male ego and then how a woman or whatever it is someone’s dating could praise them for their sexual performance. But I just, I just want to encourage people to let their relationships and their self value be based on more than Dick and Pelosi. I can
Anna: yeah. Would be nice. But
De’Vannon: we, we, we, can we come a little bit farther than that people
Anna: I mean, not, not everybody’s like that. I mean, there’s couples that I hear on Facebook that are like, We have, we have such great other types of intimacy that we don’t need intercourse cause outercourse and you know, they’re fine with that and not [00:48:00] so,
De’Vannon: You said outercourse,
Anna: yeah, like a
De’Vannon: there are other chorus
Anna: out outer, outer course instead of intercourse, this outer core. So anything like
De’Vannon: like four plates.
Anna: and stuff, I guess. Yeah. Like a, yeah. Does it mean even though you’re, even though you have ed, you still can what’s the proper word come and ultimate. What’s the cool word to use nowadays.
De’Vannon: Ejaculated com bust a nut.
Anna: but if you’re limp, I don’t know if you knew that you don’t have to tell me if you know that.
De’Vannon: No, I don’t. I didn’t know that that was possible.
Anna: Yep. I didn’t either until I started reading and I’m like, what really? So I guess what the right position, the outer is can work, grinding and stuff.
De’Vannon: Hmm, I suppose. So [00:49:00] there’s not a blockage in between the testicles and the urethra and the flow of semen can flow out because the hard, the erection is, is nothing more than blood rushing into the spongy tissue that makes up, you know, the penis, the Dick area, you know, blood is what makes Dick hard. But I guess, but yeah, I mean, there’s nothing blocking the flow of the spring mountain shore Ramadan.
Anna: did it. No.
De’Vannon: Hm. Well, now we’ll just power, you know, we gotta learn, learn, learn, learn, learn, learn, learn, learn. And we also got to learn how to love ourselves. I feel like I just keep feeling like. The whole broke. Dick broke pussy thing is like the, kind of like the surface level of this. I feel like that this is so much deeper.
You know, I feel like that this is a, like a cavernous void of. I don’t know, like just did something broken inside a person. Cause you know, when you’re happy, healthy, and whole, you can have shit fuck up in your [00:50:00] life or in your body. And that won’t take your joy away from you. You know, when you reach a certain level of mental, which you already spiritual maturity and emotional maturity, you know, not saying you won’t be pissed off if, if something breaks in your body or if you get cancer or if you get HIV, but you’re not gonna let it into your life because you know how to focus on what is working and not, what’s not working.
So you might have some health issues, but what else, what, what what’s actually going on, good in your life and everything like that. Why focus and emphasize and make a big deal out of one negative when you’ve got so much positive going on. It’s like this whole fight over cut and uncut dicks, you know, people are so goddamn, shallow and shit that they’ve made people feel insecure about.
Okay. I’m not gonna say I’m not going to have sex with him. He has an uncut Dick. The thing is ugly. Or on the converse, somebody that’d be like, well, I only want [00:51:00] uncut dicks. You know, it was like a whole thing, especially in the gay community. It’s like a whole big fiasco and, and I’m all like, God damn it.
Just shit. Dick is Dick other daily work. The same, all that is is a, is a, is a, is like a cosmetic thing. You know, it was, there was a hood there. Or there’s not, you know, Yeah,
sure. You can have your preferences, but it shouldn’t be to the point that he makes somebody feel bad. You know, if their Dick isn’t pretty enough, you know, you know, all of that and nobody should accept that sort of criticism, you know, from somebody else.
And so, you know, again, it just gets me back to watching how we think about ourselves, being sure that our value systems about ourselves, not based on superficial things and also not allowing somebody to make us feel bad over superficial things. If some people should accept you for who you are, no matter what, not, what you can [00:52:00] do.
Anna: Yeah. That’s how it should be. But.
De’Vannon: Now, you mentioned, you mentioned the statistic about how many men have we worked out a function, the songs, and how many are projected to, what are those, what are those statistical projections for? What.
Anna: I didn’t really find much for women because either they don’t report it. Like if I, if I didn’t go to the doctor, I would never have known, I have vaginismus. I want to just pay just like dealt with it. But and I think I had, this was back in the day too, when I was at, when I started using tampons because they were hurt, they were hurt.
I’m like, that’s weird. I’m like, well, I never said anything. Cause you know, it’s embarrassing to tell my parents and my mom that or whatever, or the doctor that so, so there’s not like an exact statistic for women, but I’m sure there is, there’s a ton out there.
De’Vannon: Well, that makes sense and sense of such a big deal for men if something’s not working right. You know, he’s probably going to go run real quick to try to get that shit fixed.
Anna: Yeah. And there’s a ton of women that have painful intercourse and they just deal with it. And like myself, I never, actually, I went to the [00:53:00] doctor. When I was early marriage and I was, I would say like sex hurts. I don’t know why it hurts. It hurts. And they’re like, well, just relax, have a glass of wine. And you’ll be fine.
I’m like, okay, thanks. When I went to the next doctor, same thing, relax, have a glass of wine. I’m like, oh my gosh. So let’s put, these women are being told and said, you know, this time, thankfully somebody said my new doctor was like, you have vaginismus. Otherwise I would have been like, well, you’re just too tense.
And it’s not all mental because I was under anesthesia of having my hysterectomy. And there were it was a vaginal hysterectomy and the doctor’s like, I couldn’t even get instruments. And then when you were under anesthesia with thing was just super tight and closed and not gonna go away. So yeah.
It’s so it’s not just mental because I heard that too. Like, oh yeah, it was the wrong guy then that’s probably what it is literally with me. I’ll cure you.
De’Vannon: Yeah.
Anna: Sure.
De’Vannon: Well, not all doctors are created even, you know, I believe [00:54:00] in second, third, fourth opinions, whatever it is that you need in order to until you feel like you’ve received an answer of PISA and you know, when it makes sense to you, and then you’re not trying to like negotiate with, you know, if you know some shit ain’t right.
That you’re getting from a doctor and then go somewhere else.
Anna: Yes. That’s what, yeah. Especially with cancer stuff. I had a really bad plastic surgeon that a little too confident and messed up my chest and I had to have another side, the other side removed because of it to make him symmetric. And he was just very cocky. Like, I’ll wait until you’re done with my once I’m done with your mastectomy, doing your reconstruction, your, your friends are going to be jealous of your, of your chest.
And I’m like, I don’t even have nipples guy con what friends gonna be like, Ooh, look at you Ana. No, so yeah. Second opinions.
De’Vannon: I would have run right then, because, you know, if you’re in a doctor’s office going through what you were going through it at that point in time about your friends, you know, it was about
Anna: [00:55:00] know he was very cocky.
De’Vannon: about you and what you need to feel beautiful. Not about giving you a look so that you can go out there and give shallow ass people a reason to give you an attaboy or an ad, a girl or whatever.
You know, his heart was not in the right place.
Anna: yeah. Yeah. He’s not a good guy, but I know how to pick them. Sometimes these doctors and
De’Vannon: So you’ve mentioned that this app is free.
Anna: yes, it’s free and it will have premium features available right now. Their premium features are free, but once I have enough users, then we’ll do the premium services at an extra charge because I have to make some kind of revenue in order to maintain the app. So so yeah, right now it is, it is a free app.
De’Vannon: So that you plan to grandfather, the people in and give them the premium services to people who have signed up, have been with you from the beginning, or will you give them a discounted rate or what’s the plan?
Anna: I’m not really sure yet, because I was debating if I should do a [00:56:00] monthly rate too. Cause that’s another reason why I wanted to do a monthly rate for everybody is because I don’t want someone to just sign up for the app to just to be nosy and just to see, like, let’s see if I know anybody that has ed next to me or whatever my neighborhood.
And and I didn’t want that freedom. Cause I mean, I’ve been tablet. I could tell, like I already have a fake user on there, John DOE I’m like, or like whatever it was. I’m like what do I do with this guy? And there’s no picture of him, you know? So why is he on this app? Is he because he’s being nosy or is he being shy?
You know, what’s the reason, so. So I thought that maybe having like a minimum registration fee or whatever, it will be monthly fee that they would prevent malicious users. would actually know exactly what the app’s about. They won’t sign up, you know, if, if it’s free, they won’t sign up. Or if they have to pay for it, they may hesitate to sign up because they were make sure that they understand what the apps about first.
De’Vannon: Right. That might not be a bad idea. I mean, I think E harmony [00:57:00] did something similar, you know, to that, you know, and have done very, very well in terms of, you know, having a fee for everybody, you know, with the, with the money, the things people spend money on, you don’t have the bullshit, the money on, you know, hello coffee is, was at least $5.
If you dare eat food, which I hate fast food, but shit, you know, you’re looking at a good eight to $10 for one meal at a fast food restaurant. So a couple of dollars a month.
Anna: To find true love that’s worth it. Right.
De’Vannon: No, it is totally worth it. And then, yeah, you’ll, you’ll get the bullshit people, bullshit ass people off your off of your app that way. So is there anything else you would like people to know about entwined? You know, this app can be found and like what the Google app store and the apple app store and on the website, like, so tell us where it is and anything at all. You want us to know about the app?
Anna: So right now, if you go to intwine dating.com E N T w I N E dating.com, you [00:58:00] can read the whole history of why I created the app again, if you’d like, and then also you can download it to the play store. So Android it’s available on Android. You use it as a web web-based app and then also so. IOS I’m working on that because I have, they, I guess they’re not accepting any new dating apps in the app store right now.
So I have to plead my case and show them that this is not because they said there’s too many scams out there. So I had to show them, look, I have this many users. I’ve helped this many users. It’s been on Google play store for how many months or years. And I joined all these podcasts and I in this magazine, you know, so it’s a legit person.
That’s created something to help others. So it’s just to show that it’s a unique app. And then once I plead my case, I’ll be able to go into the, into iOS, which I can’t wait for that too. Cause it’s a lot to explain.
De’Vannon: Right. So the, do you have like a Facebook group, but you know, you can make like a private Facebook group so that people can [00:59:00] talk to each other. Do you have something like this?
Anna: I don’t yet. I, I tried to, to create like a sexual dysfunction group and a. I got a lot of creepy people trying to join us. So from different countries. And so I’m like, well, that’s not going to work. So yeah, I do have like my business page, my entwine and twine Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. But as far as like a group for just the users, not yet.
De’Vannon: Okay. All right. All right, Anna. Well, this isn’t bringing us to the, to the end of our, I felt like I don’t know, very like meaningful and loving conversation here that we’ve had today. So what, what advice do you have that? And I’m going to let you have the last word here. What, what advice do you have for people, men and women, both who are suffering?
From either cancer and or [01:00:00] sexual dysfunction.
Anna: The sexual dysfunction. If you’re one of those people that have been alone for a long time, this app could be your answer you’ve been waiting for. And I know it’s intimidating to sign up at first, but there’s other people out there that, that are okay with not having intercourse. And just because you can’t, if you have ed or vaginismus or whatever, whatever condition you have, it’s you deserve to be loved too.
And, and I think you should take that leap and join in twine and you can have somebody there that’s gonna love you just the way you are and you don’t have to change for anybody. Just be yourself.
De’Vannon: Yeah, That’s like that. I think that Bruno Mars songs and he’s like, girl, you were amazing just the way you are.
Anna: that’s right. Spear self. it, you know, I’m a karaoke horror, by the way.
De’Vannon: Hey, be a horn, not a boy. [01:01:00]
Anna: I go to karaoke like seven days a week when I don’t have my kids. That’s my outlet.
De’Vannon: You do well in Japan. They love you over there. And what about closing words where anyone with cancer?
Anna: If you are diagnosed or if you find like something suspicious, don’t hesitate because early detection is key. If I had waited to check my lump out, out of fear, I wouldn’t be here anymore because my cancer was aggressive. And when you do go start going to the doctors, get, you know, get a checked out.
I would definitely recommend getting a second opinion. I was always worried about hurting my doctor’s feelings to get a second opinion. I didn’t want him to find out, but you know what, it’s your body. And you need to, to be your best advocate. You just need to go out there and get as much information as you can.
It’s very overwhelming. But as long as your. You have a good support system and you have that and accepts help from family and friends if you need it. Cause that was another thing that I had a hard time doing was [01:02:00] so it was like, oh, can I bring you a meal? I’m like, no, don’t bring me anything. I’m fine. I’m fine.
I’m fine. But accept, help from others. And definitely second opinions. That’s most important, I think is you never know if somebody might have missed something in your, in your pathology report or
De’Vannon: All right. Well, bless you Monday or Anna Leonardo. I think that’s a beautiful, powerful mobster as name.
Anna: Thank you very much.
De’Vannon: So, yeah, I look forward to a release in this episode, a very unique perspective you have, I think you were being so humble, so vulnerable, so transparent, so willing to keep it real and tell the fucking truth, which is my opinion makes you one of those strongest people I’ve ever met.
Anna: Thank you very much.
De’Vannon: Absolutely. So here’s to a fantastic life for You
Anna: You too as well. Thanks for having me on your show.
De’Vannon: Thank you all so [01:03:00] much for taking time to listen to the sex drugs and Jesus podcast. It really means everything to me. Look, if you love the show, you can find more information and resources at SexDrugsAndJesus.com or wherever you listen to your podcast. Feel free to reach out to me directly at DeVannon@SexDrugsAndJesus.com and on Twitter and Facebook as well.
My name is De’Vannon and it’s been wonderful being your host today and just remember that everything is going to be all right.
